When you lose someone you love

I was talking to a friend this week who lost an adult child to suicide a few months ago. I asked her what the hardest thing for her to come to terms with is. She said something that struck me. Hard.

“Grieving is not about getting over loss. It’s about learning to live with a new reality…one you did not choose.”

When we lose someone we love – however it happens – it is a new reality. And rarely one we would have chosen. Ever.

I’ve lost someone I love deeply. I get what my friend is saying. It doesn’t mean there isn’t peace. It doesn’t mean there isn’t joy. It doesn’t mean I’m not content or hopeful. It means that I am aware of this new reality and it isn’t one I would have ever chosen.

I’m so grateful for the Comforter. The Holy Spirit. Inside. I’m so glad that I can give every burden to Jesus and cast all my cares and concerns on Him because He cares for me. I have His Word on it.

And I am wildly grateful for the future we have in eternity. Grateful for forever with the Lord and those we love when we are reunited in heaven. Because that will make this time seem outrageously small and short. Here’s to forever with those we love. Heaven…be there.

 

This too shall pass – It’s temporary

 

 

There is a truth that has carried me through some pretty tough times and continues to do so.

THIS IS TEMPORARY.

No matter what it is, it will most likely be over soon. If not soon, it probably won’t be too long in the scheme of things. If it takes longer, it is still unlikely to be this bad forever. If it is irreversible in this life, it will be corrected and perfected at the end of this life. No matter what…this is temporary. And, it WILL give way to better things.

Underlying this truth is a bigger truth. We are not alone. God Himself has given us His Spirit, His grace, His peace, His power. He has also given us each other. This is temporary and you have guidance, help and support. Pause. Breathe that in. Let it comfort you and bring you peace and strength. God is good and He adores you.

 

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God is working it out for your good

 

 

God is always working the circumstances of our lives for our good. Even when those circumstances can’t be called good. He brings beauty for ashes, joy for mourning, praise to displace despair (Isaiah 61).

Got ashes? Me, too. Some mourning? Yes. Opportunity for despair? All of us do. God’s got an exchange for us. Beauty. Joy. Praise. Even when there are still ash smudges on our cheeks and hands. He’s bringing it. Take hold of it. It’s already yours.

God is good and He adores us.

Lord, You are the shield around me

 

 

 

Oh, Lord…You are the shield around me. You are my glory. You are the lifter of my head. (Psalm 3:3) Thank You for wrapping your faithful goodness and protection around me. Thank You for being my glory – the only reason there is hope and a future. Thank You for lifting my eyes and giving me vision beyond circumstances and situations. I set my sight and my mind on things above. Thank You that Your Word endures forever. You are good.

God’s heart towards us is loving

 

 

Want real peace? Begin to meditate on the immense, endless, measureless love of God. Specifically for you. For me. For your best, most loved friend. For the person who has hurt you most of all. For us all. Never failing love. No matter what.

He’s not holding one thing against any of us. Not one thing. Doesn’t matter how broken. Doesn’t matter how bad. Doesn’t matter how unforgivable in the minds and hearts of others. Doesn’t matter if it is hard to forgive ourselves. (See Hebrews 8:12, Hebrews 10:17, Isaiah 43:25)

God’s heart towards us is loving, good, kind, merciful, to bless, to heal, to give.

God is good & He adores us. He really, really does.

Peace – it’s up to us

Choosing not to fear…

Don't let your hearts be troubled

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“I am leaving you with a gift–peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” –Jesus (John 14:27)

I don’t have to be troubled or afraid. I can live in peace and with peace. My choice. He’s already done it. Given it.

Today, I choose to receive His gift of peace of mind and heart. I choose to trust in God and the finished work of Jesus. I choose NOT to be troubled or afraid.

God is good & He adores you!

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You’re in good hands…

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The victorious hand of our Father. The Creator. He says He is with us. He says He will strengthen us and help us. He is our God and He will hold us up. We have His Word on it. This morning in my quiet time, I saw myself climbing into and settling in His hand. I saw Him lifting me. It reminded me of 1 Peter 5:6 – that humbling myself under His mighty hand insures that He will lift me up and bring me out in high places (above the issues) at the right time. In the meantime, He is with me and I couldn’t be in a better place.

God is good & He adores you. Put yourself in His hands…

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His peace…

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His Peace. Available in no other way and from no other source. Peace of mind and heart.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Real Peace. A gift. Already given.

What is one of the ways to access and receive that Peace? By choosing not to be troubled. Not to be afraid.

How?

When I begin to feel troubled, I pause. I stop. I remember this gift of His Peace. In my heart, I whisper my gratitude for His perfect Peace. I begin to thank Him that He already knows what is trying to steal my peace. He has already provided whatever I need and will bring it into this situation. That He alone is my Source. I speak His Word. Sometimes on peace. Sometimes scriptures that pertain to whatever my circumstances are. Scriptures about not being afraid and why I don’t have to be afraid – about protection, about healing, about grace…

Scriptures about how very loved we are. The perfect love of Jesus. Of the Father.

The Word. His love. His presence. His goodness.

Because God is good & He adores us…and we’re going to make it.

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